Every choice you consider, be it conscious or not, takes you somewhere in life. A choice gives birth to an action. But, is it always easy to make a choice? Of all the possibilities given to me, why should I consider a particular choice, and not the others? How can I be more effective in making decisions? This short article is aimed at bringing you a few tips.
Let’s say you want to be an entrepreneur. But, your conditioned mind gives you many negative emotions around this desire. Some of the most common responses might include, “No, it is not for you”, “It is meant only for the smart and rich people”, “You are not capable”, “Your product will not reach many people as you think”. Here’s the tricky part. These thoughts and the negative emotions around them are not necessarily bad. They try to bring you more awareness on your desire. At the same time, if you get pulled into these thoughts and you do not attempt to navigate through them, sadly, your desire gets buried.
So, what I think one should do? The short answer is “One should know Herself”.
One should practice to sit with herself at least a few minutes a day. She might ask herself “What do I want to be in life?”. Once she has succeeded in picking up a particular goal, she might write that on a piece of paper. Whilst she simply observes this goal, her mind will engage with a certain thought process. She should practice non-judgmental observation with these thoughts/feelings. Once everything comes out, she might write them on the same paper, one-after-another. If she could do it so far, it is great! Now, the job is to quickly go through all these thoughts and rationally look if they make sense using the auxiliary questions like “Are these thoughts truly mine?”, “Do these thoughts come from fears or insecurities?”, “Does my mind want me to stay in life where I am currently, because it is comfortable?”, “What can I do to overcome this obstacle in reaching my goal?”.
This practice can be named as Meditation, Introspection, or Self-Reflection. But, the core idea is to be aware of your unconscious mind that acts behind the screen, still contributes to the major portion of your life. By doing so, you have the chance to make conscious choices and the life itself becomes meditative.
I ask myself everyday, “Love or Fear, which one do you want to choose?”. What could be the question that you want to ask yourself? Thanks for being here. Good day!